I have been hurt in my heart by loss and sleight and that is what I am talking about here. The pain of loss is real pain that has no physical injury attached. It comes from my emotions and centers in my chest. The sleight kind of pain where I get my feelings hurt is different. That stems from me making myself vulnerable from opening up to someone else's whim. I have learned over time that that kind of pain is more imagined because of my own insecurities. It isn't real, it is just me having my expectations dashed, which happens all the time to everyone of us so it isn't unnatural. I don't let that kind of hopes dashed stop me. Life is too short and eventually someone will not dash my hopes.
So understanding what is a real pain and what is a false one is important if we, I, am to have a fulfilling life without any regrets. Nothing ventured nothing gained is an axiom that holds true to time. So next time I am out there trying to connect somehow, and get smacked down for my efforts I will not be deterred and instead move onto the next opportunity for me to open myself up. I am not such a bad guy so eventually someone will find that out.